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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Just discovered this beautiful essay by way of your post about grief. I restacked this one with a quote from it I especially liked.

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

Thank you 🙏

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Blake Roberts | Therapist's avatar

This a beautiful and profound essay Kim. I love the way you used nature to paint a symbolic picture leading up to the tips, which are amazing by the way, about difficult emotions. Glad to have found you!

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

Wow. Your kind words mean so much (especially from a fellow therapist). Thank you so much.

I’m glad you found me. Thanks for being here.

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Little Bit & Lakiya's Mama's avatar

Beautiful!

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Finding Grace's avatar

Thank you Kim, for sharing such deep Wisdom. It brings me comfort, your words and your beautiful pictures. 🙏❤

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

What a beautiful thing to say. I appreciate you being here. ❤️

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Malcolm J McKinney's avatar

Now I get it underline the words buy me a cup.

Thanks.

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Marilyn Peterlin's avatar

Difficult emotions are grist for the mill, like Ram Dass said. Life is major and minor keys, consonance and dissonance, yin and yang.

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

I like this! What a fitting quote.

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Matt Andersen's avatar

Like they say in AA: “You better get comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

Thank you for the reminder.

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Jo Lein's avatar

Would like to add to this discussion. As a person in recovery, I sometimes struggle because I have forgiven myself for not managing my disease effectively. Then, I read things like this and think I am flawed for my lack of resilience. I know both things can be true. Naturally, I lean towards thinking of myself as trash… but that thinking got me here. I need a new way. AA has helped so much. Any thoughts?

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

Hi, Jo:

Everything is a work in progress and not having resilience doesn’t make you flawed. Resilience is something you CAN learn. I’d definitely recommend working on your negative self talk. Thinking that you are trash does not make it factual or true. This is a good place to start:

https://open.substack.com/pub/kimcdickerson/p/negative-self-talk

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

YW :)

I think we both know just how uncomfortable it can get. Keep doing the hard work, Matt.

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DocTalk, Allan N Schwartz PhD's avatar

Kim thank you so much for this beautiful post. Just five minutes ago I was on the phone discussing just the same feelings and after I found your post. Karma❤️

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

Whether it’s karma or serendipity, I’m so glad you found me. Thank you for your kind comment. ❤️.

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Pamela Leavey's avatar

Kim, thanks so much for this insightful post. I spend a lot of time sitting with my my emotions, uncomfortable and comfortable. They are all worthy of our time and we can't ignore the uncomfortable ones because we need to learn and heal from them.

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Kim C Dickerson, MS's avatar

As hard as it, yes we do. It took me a long time to learn that lesson. Thank you for being here. ❤️

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Pamela Leavey's avatar

It took me a long time too.

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